I’m so happy you shared your reflections on this Randy! I think kids can end up on activities that end up causing a lot of harm in their adult years because of well intentioned but overly intense adults. I never took dance lessons but had plenty of opportunities to dance in teams and performances throughout my life so I don’t think this will be the end of dancing for her! If anything, you’re probably helping her preserve her love of it.
11:30-8:00 PM? Wow. That’s a looooong day for anyone to endure, especially a kid! She’s a tough cookie. Hopefully she had fun while dancing, even if everything else sucked. Recitals or not, I hope she keeps dancing!
Such a simple and useful reflection Randy. And a sad story too. Once again I appreciate the depth of your considerations around parenting and the attention you give to your daughter's well-being. I think you are right to be asking questions about what this kind of mood is setting kids up for. "The atmosphere wasn’t light-hearted and fun. It was tense and strained. It didn’t feel as though anyone was enjoying themselves" Unfortunately I think you're right that these kinds of atmospheres contribute to what Haley so poignantly describes in her article.
Well, first things first, I hope your daughter's recital went well.
You're absolutely right, Randy. We might be instilling certain ways of thinking into kids very early on (I should know; I'm still one!). But knowing you, I can say that your daughter will grow up into someone not tainted by these ways of thinking. :)
A great heartfelt story. Thanks for sharing because in today’s world a recital seems so innocuous and yet you have so eloquently given it the weight it deserves.
I’m so happy you shared your reflections on this Randy! I think kids can end up on activities that end up causing a lot of harm in their adult years because of well intentioned but overly intense adults. I never took dance lessons but had plenty of opportunities to dance in teams and performances throughout my life so I don’t think this will be the end of dancing for her! If anything, you’re probably helping her preserve her love of it.
11:30-8:00 PM? Wow. That’s a looooong day for anyone to endure, especially a kid! She’s a tough cookie. Hopefully she had fun while dancing, even if everything else sucked. Recitals or not, I hope she keeps dancing!
Such a simple and useful reflection Randy. And a sad story too. Once again I appreciate the depth of your considerations around parenting and the attention you give to your daughter's well-being. I think you are right to be asking questions about what this kind of mood is setting kids up for. "The atmosphere wasn’t light-hearted and fun. It was tense and strained. It didn’t feel as though anyone was enjoying themselves" Unfortunately I think you're right that these kinds of atmospheres contribute to what Haley so poignantly describes in her article.
Well, first things first, I hope your daughter's recital went well.
You're absolutely right, Randy. We might be instilling certain ways of thinking into kids very early on (I should know; I'm still one!). But knowing you, I can say that your daughter will grow up into someone not tainted by these ways of thinking. :)
A great heartfelt story. Thanks for sharing because in today’s world a recital seems so innocuous and yet you have so eloquently given it the weight it deserves.